A woman with fourteen children, ages one through fourteen, sued her husband for divorce on the grounds of desertion.

"When did he desert you?" the judge asked.

"Thirteen years ago," she replied. "If he left thirteen years ago, where did all these children come from?" asked the judge. "Oh," said the woman, "he kept coming back to say he was sorry." Maybe that is taking forgiveness too far!

There is, however, evidence that forgiveness is good for you It's hard to keep hating someone without it taking a toll on us. It's like the wee boy who was sitting on a park bench in agony.

A man walking by asked him what was wrong. The boy said, "I'm sitting on a bee," "Then why don't you get up?" the man asked. The boy replied, "Because I'm hurting him more than he is hurting me!" It takes a toll on us when we hold on to a grudge.

Grudge-holders are grave-diggers and the only graves that they dig are their own.”

A famous journalist one wrote… “The most inspiring and caring man I ever met came from Co Fermanagh. His name was Gordon Wilson. Gordon was the father of Marie Wilson, one of 11 people killed in the Enniskillen Remembrance Day bombing. Marie was a young nurse who died, buried in the rubble with her father, who held her hand and spoke with her during her last moments of consciousness. I genuinely thought he was the nearest I would ever get to being in the presence of a saint”

In a BBC interview Gordon said: “She held my hand tightly and gripped me as hard as she could. “She said, Daddy, I love you. Those were the last words I ever heard her say. But I bear no ill will. I bear no grudge. She was a great wee lassie. She loved her profession. “We shall meet again. I will pray for these men tonight and every night.”

These words may be among the most-remembered from the decades of conflict in Northern Ireland, uttered by an ordinary, but yet extraordinary man — a man who until that fateful day had quietly run a family drapery business in Enniskillen.